How to take care and cherish your relationship and make it last?

Being in a relationship has been a dream for many, curse for most and a blessing for few. So, what is it that people call a perfect relationship? Does it really exist?

Relationship is like a PIZZA. A baked pie, consisting of a layer of respect for each other, topped with spiced love, the sauce of understanding, slices of trust, garnished with ample romance. It is indeed possible to build a mouth-watering relationship with the perfect amount of understanding, trust and love. Hence, my answer to this is, if both the partners wish, the relationship will surely be as perfect as possible.

Here are 10 commandments to be followed in a relationship

1.Express don’t impress

Most of the relationships goes wrong right from the beginning. Starting with impressing rather than expressing. Opening up is one of the best way one can express oneself. Right from describing about your day to telling about your dream. A person who would accept your dreams will surely be supportive and happy being with you. After all you are in search of a partner to live with and not a superstar to impress.

2.Thou shall never forget the glue 

No relationship is complete without a fight. And the fight can surely cause some breakage to the relationship. Hence, it is important for you to know the glue that sticks your bond. Invest time in knowing your partner and in finding out what is the glue element that sticks you together. Knowing the elements and using the right element at the right time will not only save the relationship but also connect the bond even tighter. There should exist something that none would be able to scrutinize and find out. It could be the secret way to your partners happiness, or a secret emotion that you share. But let that remain a secret, buried deep inside the base of your relationship.

3.Thou shall not play the blame game

Maturity plays a big role in any relationship. But the blame game got no age. Faults and mistakes can be expected and blaming each other won’t help in any ways. At times it becomes difficulty to deal with situations, all you have to do is support your partner. Supporting will not only help build the relationship but also in dealing negative situations with positive attitude.

4.Deal anger with finger on your lips 

Every human being deals with an emotional state of mind called anger. Anger is quite natural but as a responsible partner you are supposed to calm down your partner. But at times the process of calming down, can instigate your partner. Hence it is very important for you to know to deal with your partner’s anger. Some might like to be consoled while most of the time it is better to keep your mouth shut and wait for the right moment with the favorite delicacy.

5. Let ego not hinder the act of appreciation 

Never let ego enter in your relationship. Appreciating your partner even for a small deed will be like a cherry on the cake. Never let a day go without appreciating your partner. Ego can break rock solid relationship. Never take the risk of extending a fight for another day. Trust me you will regret later. Let go your ego not the relationship

6.Thou shall set Priorities

As individuals we know how to prioritize duties and tasks in our life. Never let your ego do the job for you. Be gentle and wise in setting a balanced one. At times, you might need to say “no” to peers and “yes” to your partner. Hard choices might come your way, but you should know who’s smile will matter to you in the long run.

7.Thou shall Forgive or Forget?

A problem coming your way? Use the F rule. Now it depends on you if you want to forgive your partner or forget the matter. By forgiving you just give up your ego for the sake of love while forgetting might let the fight end, later getting yourself in some trouble. Always remember to accept your partner, the way they are. Lack of acceptance in a relationship will lead to trust issues or even give rise to loyalty issues. No relationship can grow without having enough problem. Smart couples fight the problems together while others fight with each other. Sit back and think of which category suits you better.

8.Thou shall cogitate if the relation is worth? 

At times investing in relationship is like watering dead plants. So think wisely before taking any vital step in your life. Is it worth your time, your emotions, your feelings? Also being in a relationship is not a child’s play. Jump into this pool only if u are read to get wet.

9.Thou must learn to distinguish between the vibes

Positive vibes only. A change in vibe must let you open your mouth and speak it out because relationship has got no mouth to speak by itself. Vibes can work miracles. Hence, always keep a check on it.

10.Thou shall give space in the relationship

Let your relationship not be a confined space making it difficult for your partner to survive rather let it be as open as the blue sky. One who is ready to step into a relationship should be mature enough to know the limits. Never restrict your partner from following their dreams. At the end of the day, you individually have your own dreams and bucket list to be ticked.

Perfect relationships are like stars, you cannot touch them but if you follow them, you will end up being the perfect couple.

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